In 58 minutes you'll be a PSYCHO that has it ALL (ripped, rich, god, love & freedom)
Summary
This video explains that true success and fulfillment come from optimizing your entire life, not just focusing on one area like making money. By harmonizing various life pillars such as fitness, mindset, spirituality, skills, business, environment, relationships, and social circles, you can achieve autonomy and a good life.
Key points- Focusing solely on making money leads to less fruitfulness than optimizing your entire life for success.
- True success and autonomy are achieved by harmonizing all essential life pillars, not by balancing time between them.
- The key life pillars include fitness, mindset, connection with God, skill sets, business, environment (geographic location and house setup), relationships, and social circles.
- Each pillar should be optimized to positively impact all other areas of your life, creating a synergistic effect.
- Environments, both geographic and within your home, should be designed to maximize signal and productivity, reflecting your highest self.
- Socialization should be intentional and spiritually transactional, focusing on interactions that elevate all parties involved.
Chapters
Notable quotes (4)
“And that way you win at everything. You have the good life. You have a whole house rather than just some walls.”
“the house is first of all we want an architect and we need to understand what foundations need to be in place. What are all the elements of the house?”
“In simple terms, what is everything? It is alignment. It is all of these energy forces that create autonomy in this good life all working together.”
“God will give you your money when you truly just obsess over self-actualization on turning your seed into the biggest thing irrelevant of society and relevant to what your soul's potential is.”
0:00It's so much easier to win at everything than it is to win at one thing. Now, what do I even mean by that? You will always struggle to bear fruits when it comes to your income if all you solely focus on is making money. And you will be a whole lot more fruitful when it comes to making money and your income if you don't just focus on making money and you actually optimize and design your life to win at everything. And that way you win at everything. You have the good life. You have a whole house rather than just some walls. And I'm going to share
0:36with you exactly why that is and how we can actually set life up so that you can be more fruitful. But it's actually by optimizing for the for the bigger picture and then you actually gain the bigger picture too which is actually what you're seeking. That is autonomy. Now the first reason why this is the case though is because if you solely focus on one thing, yes it may have your time but you have so many opposing forces pulling it in a different direction. So I want you to imagine that we are creating this house. The house is your life. But if you solely just focus
1:16on building walls, making money, you can put as much effort as you want into making the perfect walls for your house. But at the end of the day, there's still no doors, there's still no windows, there's still no foundations, there's still no roof. You get rained on. The walls start eroding. It's cold. It's wet. they sink into the ground because you have forces pulling you in different directions. In simple terms, if you're optimizing to solely make money, but you don't have a harmony and a congruency that elevates competence that comes from your fitness, that comes from your relationship, that comes from your connection with God, that comes from
2:02your mindset, that comes from your skill sets, that comes from all of these essential pillars, your social circle, your network. You have all of these opposing forces pulling you down. doesn't matter how much time you try and build the walls, the walls won't even go up and you definitely won't get the house. Whereas, if you just go, right, we're going to do this properly. We're going to get an architect. We're going to actually understand what is the dream house. First of all, let's actually start optimizing for the right finished product instead of falling for the scup of making money is life. It's definitely a very important piece. You definitely
2:39want walls in the house, but walls aren't the goal. the house is first of all we want an architect and we need to understand what foundations need to be in place. What are all the elements of the house? Now it's not about balance. You've probably heard before balance is [ __ ] Balance is [ __ ] Okay? But that doesn't mean you solely focus on one thing. It means you don't balance the time between the effort you put into the structural foundations, the effort you put into the windows, the effort you put into the the bathroom fittings. You definitely don't balance the time, but what you do want is harmony. You need
3:19all these essential components of your life to work together. Now, it's not that you can't achieve the perfect wall or the perfect doors without the other things, but it just doesn't complete anything. And it's going to be it's going to come with a whole lot more friction than it would be if you just actually paused for a second and decided, no, let's build correctly from the beginning or at least from today where we are now. Let's start building correctly. And what I'm going to share with you in this video is all of the actual components to a house to create autonomy to actually create the
3:57life you want. So that yes, these important elements of life are going to be a whole lot easier. And you will be more fruitful, but you won't just be more fruitful when it comes to your income and your wealth. You'll actually feel internally fulfilled. You'll have purpose. You'll have energy. And you'll have the location freedom, the time freedom, the financial freedom. You have all of it. That is what autonomy truly is. And you can't achieve that by solely just focusing on one thing. So the first thing we have to do is what what are all the components of the house? In human experience, what are the components? Now guys, I've
4:35been on my entrepreneurial journey for six, seven years now. And I analyze this stuff a lot. What raises my energy? What lowers my energy? What are the opposing forces? We have fitness. With fitness, we could also say like your physiological energy. We then have your mindset, the actual vehicle that needs to mirror the soul so we can fulfill on what our soul is trying to express.
4:59Okay? Like the actual vehicle. Having our belief systems and mental syntax actually congruent because right now the only reason you don't have everything you want is because your mindset isn't congruent with the outcome that you want. After that, it's connection with God. It's your purpose. It's your divine call and it's your spirituality. That's another thing I talk about your you need to get in great shape to have elite energy from a physiological standpoint.
5:23But connection with God and purpose makes you unfucking comparable in energy. You are tapped into the battery pack of the source when you really build a connection with God. And that's really where the internal fulfillment comes from as well. After that, we have skill sets. We have knowledge. You have to have that. Yes, making money. Time in business is also important. We could also say where you live in the world is a big factor. The amount of times I've thought just don't feel that great.
5:53Sometimes you're just in the wrong location in the world. Your house setup. Both of these fall under environment really. Your house setup and how you actually set up your house. It's going to affect your energy. your social circle, the people you actually spend time with, and you could even argue online and what you consume. Relationships, whether it's with family, whether it's with partners, like loving relationships, all of these are going to be the foundations really of forces. Now, all of these forces we definitely don't need to balance, but we need to achieve harmony within these forces. If you just try to master one of these forces, you
6:36won't be fruitful in it. And like I said, you won't live the good life. What we need to do is actually understand, okay, these are the forces. I can tell you right now after seven years in entrepreneurship and not just optimizing for money, but living the best life. These forces have to be that there is no way you could actually live the life where you were truly honest with yourself and go I this is the life I I want internally and externally if you don't balance these forces. So just get real honest with yourself. These are the forces.
7:06Yes, we need money. Yes, we need fitness. Yes, we need that spiritual purpose and connection with God. Yes, we need great relationships. Yes, we need good people around us. We need knowledge. We need income. Of course, the only way, guys, you're going to feel like you've got everything is when you've got everything. And there's nothing wrong with that. Seeking one thing won't ever feel like everything because it's not everything.
7:30And even if it's one thing amazing, there's still a pull of forces. In simple terms, what is everything? It is alignment. It is all of these energy forces that create autonomy in this good life all working together. So that if you put one hour of energy into your fitness and your your identity, your self-image and how your body is fueled, well, even though that may pull on paper one hour out of making money, that block that went from 10 hours to 9 hours of making money is now five times more potent. I would argue 100,000 times more potent. And then you start stacking up with you got a relationship which is
8:13supportive and it's high frequency and it's growth focused. You've got great people in your mastermind in your circle. You got more knowledge. You're building on it. You got connection with God. You got divine calling. Holy [ __ ] You can do four hours of work a day and you will be unstoppable relative to someone working 100 hours in a day if that could even happen. So I'm going to run you through how we harmonize them.
8:36Not how we balance them. How do we harmonize the things and what should you focus for in each pillar? So, grab a pen and paper. We're going to go through these in chronological order. Pretty much how I've just managed these. And this really is how we're going to set up our life so that with simplicity of actions on all of these pillars, these forces, we can get the most out of one, making money, but two, we got we got the good life. We got autonomy. are internally fulfilled. We're snowballing. We're in this slipstream of quantum leaping. So, the first one is fitness. Going to keep
9:14this really simple with you guys. I'm not going to overly articulate and justify and make this just a one-hour video on fitness. I'm going to tell you what wisdom has brought me to in all of these pillars. You can just write them down and execute. Come back a week from now and thank me [ __ ] later.
9:32Straight to the answers. When it comes to fitness, train in the morning if you can right now. If you are currently working like night shifts and stuff like that, well, the morning equivalent. And very soon, if you actually action and you get out your own [ __ ] way, you'll be able to follow this exactly to a tea.
9:52There may be elements of what I'm going to say right now where you go, I can't do this. And all you have to do is I need you to write down all of these things I'm going to give you and go what are all the things if I actually give a [ __ ] I can do these right now. If I'm actually prepared to pull my finger out my [ __ ] I can actually do these things. You take accountability. You take full control. And the things that you can do if you take some [ __ ] control will allow you to be able to do
10:17the others. And when you do the others, then you're going to [ __ ] start building some [ __ ] skyscraper. So train am train fasted. The next thing is fasting. Train in the AM. Train fasted. Now, yeah, you may have some EAS, creatin, whatever, hydrate. You may have caffeine. When I say fasting, you don't need to be truly calorie fasted. I don't care about that. Uh, I care more about just don't be loading heavy meals into your body first thing in the morning. It's going to tie into some of the stuff I talk about with connection with God and mindset in a moment. But
10:50train in the morning, fasted in the morning. It completely gets it out the way and it's a great way to raise your energy and no matter what is going on in life, it just starts the day every day with the same routine. Fasting in the morning. We're going to fast through the training. Like I said, EA is hydration, coffee, whatever. Fine. And you're going to fast all the way through your morning process, which we're going to talk about in a second. and through your morning work block, your deep work block again, which we're going to talk about. Fasting from heavy meals is a great way to
11:25connect within. If you don't go within, you go without. And my whole philosophy really around life is that everything you do should cleanse your path to the heart. I have a tattoo here on my arm. It says, "Follow your heart." It's one of the Banksy tattoos down the back of my arm. It says, "Your conscience is your gift from God. What you do with it is your gift to God. Act boldly, walk in faith. It's already done.
11:52But we have to set up our day so we can get in. So we can get to the conscience and then have conscious congruency through taking action on it. Fasting and movement and training is a very powerful tool to get internal meals. Hit a meal plan at least six days of the week. Remove decision fatigue. You shouldn't be thinking about what you're eating every day. That's the gayest thing in the world. Okay? It's just wrong. It's a waste of time. If you're gay, it's the straightest thing in the world. It's just wrong. It's the wrong thing to do for whatever you are. Don't waste time with it. Get a coach. Have
12:32your macros dialed in based on where you are right now with your body, where you're going, what you need to do this week specifically for you. And then just run it. No questions asked. just run it. What this means is every single day you're already putting food in your mouth, but you guarantee maximum progress every day. That's changing your identity. You're in a snowball of evolving your appearance, how you look.
12:55You're stacking wins. Plus, your macros shouldn't just be set up for aesthetic, but also energy also from a mental competence standpoint. and total macros will help forge the aesthetic and morphing you into your higher self from a physical being standpoint, but with nutrient timing and the foods that you use, it's going to really help you from an actual energy standpoint. So, hitting the meal plan, right? And just that's it. It's that simple. Then steps, depending on who you are and your lifestyle, you can make it work anywhere from six to 15,000 plus steps a day.
13:33Okay? But if you're in the lower echelon of that, like 10 to 6,000, I would utilize more cardio for move movement. That's what I actually personally do. I'm usually around 7 and a half 8,000 steps a day, but I utilize more cardio. For me, it's just a little bit more time efficient. Cardio, exercise bike, stair master, runs, whatever you want. I personally prefer the prefer the the nonweightbearing stuff like exercise bike. I've got one of the Concept twos on the roof. Um, and and cardio, yes, it helps you move into the aesthetic. It helps raise your energy, but the the element I love about cardio, no matter what phase I'm in,
14:16it's in the protocol, is it's like a form of meditation. It's mindfulness. Not if you're watching and scrolling Instagram at the same time, but if you have a powerful audio book or even if you just have like a white noise or some meditative music and you're just running with it, let your mind bounce. So much of my most creative ideiation comes whilst I'm on that cardio bike. I literally just feel like I'm in pure conversation with God the whole time. So you can see how even just this fitness pillar, it's actually ticking off boxes on the spirituality.
14:53It's ticking off boxes on the mindset because it's raising my frequency and especially like I'll put my cardio in the afternoon block simply just because as my battery drains after the morning of work, I just bounce it back up with movement. Most people are tired because they don't move enough. So it's it's ticking so many ideiation ideas. It's helping my business. It's helping me make more money. So many people are just I want to make money and they're in the business. But by coming out and raising the frequency and having mindfulness and movement, you tap into the energy source. You get these creative ideas.
15:28You're in a different frequency now. It's not all about action. Especially if you're a business owner, your primary role, especially as your scale will simplify. You should be doing less things but working on the highest leveraged stuff. the more potency and the higher you go, the more of a founder essentially you should just be. You should be the visionary. You know, cardio meditation training movement eating good, having a cleansed mind so you can connect with the heart is going to be one of the fastest ways to scale your business. So, that's the fitness pillar. Then, we've got connection with God. That is going to be mindfulness.
16:03It's going to be meditation. It's going to be Do you know what? I I had a question with one of the guys on the elite call, the fitness mindset life program, and uh this this was brought up like how do you really connect with the heart? How do you connect with that authentic voice of God and meditation, mindfulness, whether it's cardio, whether it's just actual something like a v persona just sat there? But here's another one, especially if you're a little bit earlier on and you struggle to hear that voice is just taking so much action on all the areas of your life that you can
16:40imagine. So, you start to build a pattern recognition on what was God and what wasn't. You may have felt this before. What's my mind and what's my heart? For example, maybe you've been in a relationship and you you you jumped into it and then you went, "Oh, this isn't the type of girl I want, but next time you do." And then even though your intuition may have said something before you got in the last one, you weren't sure what it were, but now you were like, "Ah, that was my intuition.
17:08That was God." And you do this with when it's with your fitness, you do this in socialization, you do this in business, you do this in relationships, all these areas of life. the more you are prepared to just go [ __ ] it, take action, fail, right? Because failure is just a closer step to success. Be obsessed with action. That is failure because that is one step closer to success. So, one of the best ways as well to get to God is just having this conscience congruency.
17:34Whether it's your mind or your heart or not, it doesn't really matter because either way, you learn if it was or not. and you build a better pattern recognition on what was a message from the source and what was a message from your programmed mind. So it's all of these things. It's mindfulness but it's also action. Then we got the mindset. In the morning I go through the AM process.
17:53This also ties into the spiritual side, the connection with God. Uh the AM assumptions, consciousness calibration, AM assumptions and alignment. This is where we step into the end state, the vision of not just everything we have materially and lifestyle design-wise and the house and the cars and the body uh but also really how we operate and how we think and how we feel and how we uh how we believe in all of these things because again a call with a coaching client the other day he mentioned to me he said Tom I'm I'm running my process but Uh, I'm just I'm just I'm just don't feel like I'm
18:35winning. So, we had to reframe that. And you can run a process, but if you're from the wrong state, you're not actually running the process that's aligned with the end. You have to truly be the end state now in state of mind, not just action. You can do the right things from the wrong state. Where am I going with this? If at the end in that assumption where you visualize hypothetically the Ferrari, the business with hundreds or thousands of clients, the impact that you want to have, the lifestyle, the ability to provide for your partner, for your family. If at that end state you would feel so much gratitude, you
19:13would have so much calmness, so much knowingness, so much abundance. Not just do you need to visualize that picture but you need to understand and feel the end state. Feel the end state in the future of how you would feel when you possess that. And you have to be feeling that now. So what also comes after this morning process and not just feeling the and understanding the level of life you want but also the internal state of how you would be, how you would decide, how you would think, how you would feel at that end state. And then have this is the part that most people
19:46aren't prepared to do. It's a 247 game. 365. You will be misunderstood. You're going to have to live life with the introspection, a third person view, monitoring your mind, going through the day and going, I wouldn't think that. I wouldn't decide like that. I wouldn't bail on my goals like that. I wouldn't not invest in myself like that. I wouldn't feel down like that. Pull it, correct it, reprogram the conscious mind to bleed into the subconscious mind. And it's just a 24/7 game of microcorrections and iterations and analysis and feedback and boom boom boom. That is how you build the mindset.
20:22Plus, audiobooks can help you do this. Coaches proximity to people who already possess the outcome in the life you want are going to see your blind spots. they're going to actually be able to bleed their frequency, their belief systems, their mental syntax into you through proximity. Right now, you might be this golden apple, but you're around all of these moldy apples. You're only whether you you try and force it away or not, you're taking it. That the best thing to do is just put yourself by another apple, which is even more juicy, even more fruitful. Proximity is power when it comes to mindset. So morning
21:01process, audio books and proximity to people who already possess the outcome that you want. Then we got stuff like skill sets. If you are not like in the Bible, you have to your seed, right? You have to through the fitness and the mindset and the spiritual stuff, you're going to understand you're going to have the the the the path cleansed to the heart. You're going to understand what is your seed for one. So you're not just making money in an unaligned way anyway, right? You're [snorts] actually putting the walls where you want them. They're you're actually designing not just a house, but the house of your dreams.
21:36You're do you're building the house God told you to build. You understand your seed, but then you don't just sell the seed. You have to turn the seed into an oak tree. You have to turn the seed into the [ __ ] avatar tree. You have to turn it into the biggest tree in the world. You have to feed it. You have to grow it.
21:55And yes, the mindset, yes, the fitness, yes, taking immense action and building better pattern recognition and getting closer to God. It's all going to grow the seed and give you more clarity. But skill sets, you have to become as value as pos as valuable as possible and then give that back to the world. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people are too happy being complacent, being an actual [ __ ] [ __ ] [ __ ] They go, I'm amazing.
22:23because they're looking at 100 retards around them who haven't done any form of self-actualization. Therefore, they believe that they're super confident and competent and that they should just make all the money in the world through giving this [ __ ] the world's just a [ __ ] bunch of [ __ ] houses who have done done no growth and they go, "Oh, I'm better than all of these guys. Pay me my money." No.
22:49God will give you your money when you truly just obsess over self-actualization on turning your seed into the biggest thing irrelevant of society and relevant to what your soul's potential is. And you actually express what the seed is trying to become. You obsess over mastery and expertise in your seed. You become the highest most authentic version of yourself. And every day, you can't just focus on making money. You can't just focus on getting sh. There has to be a time that goes into skill sets. One of the highest things you and this bleeds into the other areas. One of the highest frequency things you can do from a
23:25mindset standpoint is invest in your skills, invest in your knowledge. I have never invested in myself to grow my seed and not felt immensely better after. Why? Because it's an aligned purchase. But I have bought things and felt not good after them. Okay? And why is that? Let's drop a little bomb here. The future is already complete. All of these split dimensions, there is all of the versions of you in the future. The [ __ ] the elite, the horrendous, the average, the good, the meh, the [ __ ] unbelievable, the highest most authentic. All of these are already done in the future. But your highest self
24:07is saying to you when you, let's say, make a purchase or take an action, you can apply this to anything. When you feel a feeling of suffering or misalignment, it's your future self which is already complete from the highest state, the most authentic one. It's that version of you communicating with you saying this is on the path.
24:24This is this is what I did to get here. It's already done. It's your higher self. When you feel aligned, when you take a specific action or when you invest in yourself to grow the seed, you feel so aligned because your future self is communicating with you saying, "This is how we got here, man. This is how we did it. This is one of the steps on the ladder. And when you do something, you drink the alcohol, you hang around with [ __ ] losers, right?
24:49You scroll Instagram for too long, you don't make that investment in yourself, and you feel this weight. That's your higher self saying, "We didn't get here doing that, man. 1 plus 0 doesn't equal two." And it's interesting because feel like this was again a divine message to me from God. About a year ago, I bought a PS5. Okay. When I was a kid, I used to play Xbox. And a year ago, I was there having my truffle scrambled eggs. Some of you may have heard this story. And I was like, I just had this epiphany of when I used to play Call of Duty with my friends. I'm
25:32like, I'm going to give myself one moment of that. And I bought a PS5. I turned it on for one game and turned it off and never went on it ever again just to give myself this uh almost like a reconnection with that that inner kid within me. And um about a week ago I had just this divine feeling. And I know my heart it was by a racing game and I had no idea why. I don't give a [ __ ] about racing games. And I don't know why it were. It was just like, Tom, you should you should take you should go plug the
26:10PS5 in in in the the room up there and you should uh in the cinema room. You should you should you should play a racing game. You should you should play with your misses. And I was like, okay. I took that I just took it on, you know, on my Saturday afternoons where I take time out. I went and I downloaded this racing game and I received a message through that. God works through people.
26:31God works through things. God is communicating with you at all times. God is communicating with you now. And I turn this game on. And first lap [ __ ] Second lap [ __ ] And then I did this unbelievable lap. And that was like, let's say my highest self lap. And it and what you can see is then when you're racing again, you can see the shadow of that the the best lap time, like the best. You see the line it's on. You can see the car and you're like, "Fuck." You can you can see how the best version of yourself was driving, was operating,
27:09and then when you're racing again and you're on the time trial, you can see where it is. And and all of the time you're like, "Oh, [ __ ] I'm on the wrong line. Oh, I can see it going around the corner. It does that different. It didn't break here." And this this is essentially the feeling of misalignment.
27:22when you're seeing the like the the fastest lap time possible in a shadow and you're not with it, that misalignment, that's like that's like in life. It's that shadow is like your highest self and it's screaming to you on the game. You can see a visual of all of the moves it's actually taking. In real life, you can't. So, you have to take it inch by inch and maybe test 10 things and figure out, no, this is now aligned. And then go another inch and go right test five, 10 more things. Ah, no, this is the aligned one. But on the game, it was just a great visual representation of
27:56the the shadow of that end stay. And you feel aligned. Like as soon as you got back in track with that shadow car, I was like, this is [ __ ] brilliant. And when I'm out of it, I'm like, that's you in life when when you're not progressing. When you're not actually doing the things where your future self is going, this is how we got here. And as soon as you get back in sync and you do the things that your highest end state did to get where they got, you're going to feel great. So skill sets, but you can apply that to anything. Bucks,
28:27coaches, mentor. Again, just get closest to the people closest to your goals and absorb their mental syntax, their belief systems, their knowledge because you know what you know, but you don't know anything close to what you don't know quite obviously. And sometimes people think, "Oh, with age I'm going to achieve my goals." And no, age is only powerful if you apply one principle.
28:54You overcome ignorance. The only benefit of age is the potential to overcome ignorance. Now, a lot of people get to 50 and never overcome ignorance. They never actually drop their ego and go and learn and self-actualize. But you know, you can be a 19-year-old. You can be a 16-y old. You can be a 30-year-old. You can be a 40-year-old who drops the ignorance that it took someone who is 60 with certain results, but he only got them at 60 because he dropped his ego at 58. You could drop your ego and and remove ignorance at 30 and get results of a 60-year-old. Like, the time and age
29:28thing is all [ __ ] You just have to move at the fastest pace. Drop ignorance and understand you don't know what you don't know and obsess over that. The next thing is business actually now allocating time for the actual make money. But all of these are making money and all of these are self-actualizing. All of these are in other words alignment. When you work on one it's working on all of them. But business specifically you need to be building a brand around your purpose around self-trcending on your seed. When you have this seed and you become as valuable as possible, it's like one of
30:03we are multi-dimensional. If we go right, what is our primary seed and where have we attained value? Where have we mastered? Where are we attaining expertise? And now you give that best version of you and your knowledge back to the world. Whether that's through services, whether that's through products, it doesn't matter. But you build your brand around your internal seat. Apart from that, it's very simple.
30:28You should prioritize your mornings for fasted work, deep work on one thing. Everybody has, "Oh my god, Tom, I'm working 12 hours a day. I'm doing all of this." And I go, "Okay, how many sales did you make today? What got done today?" Yeah, not much. I ticked off all my list though. Okay, well that's [ __ ] Productivity means product activity. Products out, right? Sales, not busy. Productivity and busy are very different. deep you need to understand what is the one thing you can all read a book called the one thing if you identify the one thing if you have this crazy big goal if we say right what is
31:10your 10-year assumption from that assumption warning process and we say right you got six months to achieve it that time doesn't mean you have six months to achieve it it's just a a mind frame it's a it's a tool of competence to change the way you look at things and you go right if I only have six months to achieve this now it can be done. God doesn't make anything impossible. So then you have to go okay I have six months to achieve this 10 year goal that changes the competency of my mind and the only tool the only reason for the mind is to add competency to achieve the
31:40soul. So to say I I have 10 years to achieve a 10-ear goal is removing competency from yourself and from your soul. Understand this. So you go right I got I got six months to achieve the 10-year goal. I've now increased mental competence and now you go, what is the one thing, the one highest lever thing that is going to get me there? And you've probably already heard of stuff like the 8020 rule that you know 20% of the inputs create 80% of the results.
32:08The bigger your goal, the more you want to scale, it's actually more like the 982 two rule or the 991 rule. It gets to the point where you solely just need one thing. There is one thing that if you master it, virtually every element of results is sorted just from this one thing. And the reason people struggle to grow in business is yes, they have all of these opposing forces, but two, they even have opposing forces within the business.
32:39They're just doing 10 things that are all at a [ __ ] level that don't they all have different ratios to achieving results. You need to identify, you need the bigger goal, the short time frame, the one thing. And with that one thing, you then need to double down and master it and put 99% of your time into this one thing. And then what you achieve is something called fitness function, which is a tool of psychology, which means what you focus on, you master. Now, whilst everyone is putting 2% of their time into this thing that had power to be potent, you're putting 99% of your
33:15time. You're putting only deep work into this every day and you master the thing that has the ability to be highest leverage. That is how you scale. So I don't care about how many hours you put in your business. I care about working from a creative from a fasted state in a morning for 3 to six hours of deep work on the highest leverage thing and every day becoming better having more mastery in that number one lever. The morning should be for business grow. The afternoons should be for what I would call business do, business fulfillment or business tasks. So for example, me running my coaching consultancy and and
33:56done for you businesses for clients, my afternoons, some of them have fulfillment where I'm working with clients, whether that's calls or working with the team on fulfilling clients or whatever. That's only a couple of days a week for me in the afternoons. But then the rest of my afternoons I can work through task lists and stuff that needs to be done and built like improving the product.
34:20The mornings though every day is business growth. I work on my number one highest leverage task. Guys, if you actually want my calendar, my exact calendar that harmonizes all of these things I'm talking about in this video, I will put it in the link below and just call it my calendar. And you can literally take a a live pull of my calendar and all of the sections will also be broken down on why I do it the way I do it. And it's how we harmonize a seven figure brand, being sub 10% body fat year round, increasing my connection with God, good relationships, everything all together, right? And and growing in
34:57all of them together because it's easier to grow in all of them than it is to grow in one thing because they all serve each other. They're aligned. So that's how I'd manage business. Now, we're going to kind of come out a little bit of daily process and now look at other forces uh when it comes to your energy and affecting results that you may have in business. And this is your geographic location in the world. I've seen it before. I've seen guys go from living in Miami, living in Thailand, living in Bali, living in Dubai, and they move back to their hometown where they have
35:34their old identity where they're seeing people operating at a much slower, lower frequency in the accumulative energy and belief systems of their environment actually sucks them back into a new lens and lowers their energy. And you know, sometimes I'll I'll have conversations with clients. Some of the guys in brand will tell me this. They'll fly back to, let's say, the UK and they'll be like, "Man, I'm low energy." I'm like, "No [ __ ] bro. So would I. You don't have a you problem. You have a geographic location problem." Now, if you're in the very beginning, you have to force your way through this, right? If you work on
36:12all the other elements, it will get you to the point where financially you don't need to be in your geographic location. You can move. Like this is what's great about this. If if there's certain elements you don't have the power to do right now, if you just actually take control and master the other areas, it's inevitable that you can master the other. They're all leveraging each other. But yeah, you can't I can't express how big a deal your geographic location is. This is going to be different for everybody. Again, you have to follow your heart. For me personally right now I have three types of
36:46environments that I uh have for my calendar across a year. Um and number one is my 80% which is my base. Okay. And my base needs to be rural. It needs to be a base where I am switched on but for pure signal. And for me at the moment, this is barley for like I've tested so many places and I just have the most signal, the best flow, the best internal external results when I'm in Bali. Now, there are places within Bali where I would, oh my god, I would hate. It's too busy. It's too congested. There's too much low frequency [ __ ] and drinking and
37:24and and just [ __ ] people operating on a low frequency with low-level goals. And that would be bad. So, when I say geographic location, I'm not just talking about country. I'm talking about the specifics as well, like where in the country, where in the city, where in the village, wherever. So, you've got to get your geographic location dialed in. For me, 80% of the year, I want to be in a rural, quiet location where I can optimize for maximum signal towards my goals. Okay? So, all of these areas I'm talking about, all of these different energy forces, me optimizing my geographic location can make my relationships better. It can
38:04make my business better, my productivity better, my connection with God better, my fitness better because I've got so much access to gyms. I got a gym on the like all of these things. Okay? So, I like to think about each pillar as what could I do with this pillar so it makes all of the other pillars better. That is alignment. When you work on one, it works on all of them. And then I have about 15% of my calendar uh in Dubai. I like a high energy vibrant frequency city. Okay. So I've just got back from Dubai. So I have my areas in Bali that I
38:39like to go. Okay. And I and I have a house in Bali. And then I have a place where I always go in Dubai. Um very not just Dubai as a whole, a very specific place in Dubai and a very specific place in Bali. Then the other 5% of the time would be something what I would just call like a a switch off rural. Okay. So for me that would be maybe a Morca uh corvel a a place where I would like to go where it's rural. Again I do like rural being the majority of my calendar.
39:15Uh, but I can switch off and the switch off is a percentage of my calendar which operates as signal because it truly allows me to come out. So when I'm back, I can be back in. And the the art of being out, if it makes you more in when you're in, that is technically signal. I am a big advocate on the whole of around an 8020 rural as [ __ ] but you need it set up in a way where you still have access to great food, uh, great gyms. Um, you don't need network in all honesty. You really don't. That's that's one of the
39:49biggest lies. You're going to understand this later. Um, you but the ability to have solitude, connection with God, fitness process uh for 80% of the year is the most important thing. And I wouldn't worry about who else is actually really there. I I like to have a location where it's so rural I can just dictate my own frequency. and those city um elements of your calendar can almost raise your desire and awareness and hunger for growth and then you can just hold that when you're there like I've spent years living in Dubai and that definitely was unaligned as a whole but as a phase earlier in my life having
40:26that city life my ability to think big I can bring that to I could be dropped in a prison cell I could be dropped in a mountain cave and I would work like a [ __ ] savage every day on all of these areas with maximum velocity, maximum speed because I just have this intrinsically intuitively within me now.
40:46But 8020 from a city uh from a rural to city is uh where I'd go. And for you, I would just figure out your spots. Again, be prepared to fail. Go to places, try locations, try within countries, different areas. You'll feel what's misaligned by actually taking action and going, "That's misaligned." And then through knowing what you don't want, you know what you do want. Don't be scared to fail. Be obsessed with with doing things that could lead to knowledge of knowing you don't want that thing. The the only failure in life is someone who stays stagnant, who goes, I'm not going to act either way. That is death.
41:25That is [ __ ] death. Every day I would rather take a hundred actions and fail at 100 if tomorrow I can get one win out of a 100 than just do nothing in both. That is mental suicide. So geographic location very important. Then we've actually got within location and environment we've got your actual house design and house setup. How you set up your house is going to be a a force of nature that will drastically help align and improve competency in relationships, in business, in fitness, in mind, in connection with God, in all of these things. So once you've got your geographic location and your area
42:11specifically, then the type of house that you live in, the the daylight it gets. Uh we could even add going back a step to geographic location. Do you want the sun? Do you want a specific climate? Um, but coming back to the house setup, for me, I like to optimize my house for signal. Now, what is signal? Signal is the ability to express my soul's desire. So, understanding my highest most authentic self, I want my environment to maximize my competency to achieving that. And for me that has to be a extremely clean minimalistic environment that allows me to be highly productive with business, highly productive with my mindset,
42:52highly productive with my connection with God, highly productive uh with my body and my energy and then have the potency in my relationship a little bit on the side. But like I said, it's not about balance of time. As a man, 98% of my calendar is the self-mastery part. It is my body. It is my mind. It is my connection with God and my purpose. It is my business. It is my skill sets.
43:21And my house has to the environment of my house has to dictate me mastering those five areas. Becoming more skilled every day, getting in better shape, having more energy every day, a better connection, better mindset. So, it's going to be extremely simple for me. I have the roof area, an area of solitude. It where I have the cardio. I also do meditation. I've got an ice bath. This is so good for me from a mindset and and a spiritual standpoint, mindfulness and meditation. Got the gym for fitness.
43:49I've got the the literally my kitchen is just a clear worktop with just a big [ __ ] off coffee machine. Uh and then the water machine. So, it's like water, coffee water coffee water coffee and then a stack of electrolytes in the corner. Fridge completely empty. I have meal preps delivered every single day. Uh it's I have a big whiteboard over at this side of the room. If you go in my office, I've just got uh iMac, MacBook Pro, MacBook Pro, iPad, Notepad. That's it. And I've just everything that I run all the the office and the businesses from. It's just boom. Nothing else. I
44:25have a chair here so I can sit and communicate and conversate with you guys. Uh, and then I've got the pool and I've got the garden and I'm right by the beach and there's like a beautiful field with palm trees and like above the like it's perfect. People mess up because they make their house too homey, too gay.
44:46Okay, they just they it just it doesn't reflect signal. All it reflects is laziness and comfort and relationship and optimizing entirely for the relationship. But if you optimize, same rule as I said with money, if you optimize for just money, you're going to lack on money. If you optimize for just a relationship, you optimize for the most beautiful, comfortable home and it's all about time with your partner.
45:10You want the most comfy sofas in here and all of the [ __ ] blankets and and and stupid [ __ ] Well, now your business is going to suffer. Now your body is going to suffer. Okay? If your fridge is full of all of this [ __ ] fancy food now, now your body, now your energy is going to suffer, right? And that is going to suffer. Your relationship, your relationship will burn from that.
45:37Your connection with God will burn from that. You're off purpose. Now, I'm not saying relationships aren't important. Relationships are so [ __ ] important. Like so important. And and arguably right now, it's like your relationship. It's one of the biggest forces that can dictate your success in making money and being in great shape. It's it's it's a huge force. But a relationship is one of these areas where it's arguably one of the biggest forces that can dictate the alignment or misalignment of these other areas of energy and forces. But in order to harmonize it, it doesn't need much time. The harmonization of a relationship comes from you mastering
46:21these other areas and taking total control and accountability and leadership in these areas as a man and then allowing your woman to be able to release all of the stress and anxiety from her having to do this herself so she can just live freely. Okay? And then yes, and and I've not been perfect with this my whole life. I work on this all of the time. I'm not saying I mastered relationships.
46:47Then when you're with them in that small amount of time that you give them, you have to be present. And you have to give them the best version of yourself. And yes, financially yes body yes energy yes, spiritually, but you have to give them the best version of yourself with presence. And that can be done in 10, 15, 20 minutes a day. my whole day I wake up uh have coffee, go to the gym through the morning I work in complete solitude um my MS is out all of that time while I'm focused and she supports that and then in the evening once I've finished my afternoon block of whether
47:29that was working on skill sets, whether that was um fitness again, whether that was a bit more work, whatever I was doing again on pure signal in one of these areas um in the in the evening evening, we'll have dinner and we'll have 20 minutes. Uh, and my job then is yes, I've allowed her to live her whole day very calm and peaceful and life all the stresses are really sorted, but then I have to make sure that I'm present in those 20 minutes and 20 minutes of presence and maybe half a day on a weekend, maybe a Saturday afternoon or maybe it's a Tuesday afternoon, whatever
48:01you want to do, just give them the best version of you in that time. The next area of life is socialization and your circle. Um, and this is actually pretty simple. Uh, it should be very minimalistic. You should be in solitude for even in even with your relationship, even with your your your loving partner. You should be in solitude the the most of your life. Um, you are going to grow the most in solitude. people um when they're not close to God, they fall into the trap of being close to the devil. Uh they isolate. Isolation and solitude from the outside from people who don't
48:43understand can look similar. They can look the same. And I've been someone who um in the past has isolated. Now, I didn't look like I was doing anything different to when I was in solitude. The difference is when you're isolating, it's yes, subtracting the the surroundings and being, you know, pushing other people away and being on your own, but you've been on your own in your own mind with your belief systems not serving the end state. And there is no spiritual connection to self-actualize and self-trcend and give the best version of you back to the world and uh meditate and be mindful with how you're going to benefit and
49:22impact the world. That's isolation. It's all about you on your own for your own benefit. Uh, and it's a lonely place. Solitude is where you're connecting as one with the world, with the universe, not just with God, but when I'm in solitude, I'm connecting with all you guys. All of our souls, we're all one. Now, the bodies and minds are the disconnect. We are spiritual beings in a physical body. But as spiritual beings, we're all one. When I am in solitude, I am with God, but I'm with all of the spiritual beings. And that introspection and that conversation with these spiritual beings, that's how I can
50:02conversate so well with people even when I'm not with them physically because almost like the physical versions of people, the bodies and the minds, they're they think that's them, but that's actually a [ __ ] version of them. The real them is their soul. Like I said, we're spiritual beings. So, I spend the majority of my time to to grow, to build my brand, to build myself, to self-actualize and self-trcend.
50:31The majority of my day is in solitude because that's when I'm connected with God. That's when I'm connected with my higher self. That's when I'm connected with the other individuals on the planet. That's when I can really understand what their soul knows. We all know the same thing deep down. And I always speak from my heart because I'm speaking from what I've understood in solitude on what if I speak it, I know you know it. Uh rather than anything that's really spoken from the mind or from a physical body is usually just programmed. It's actually an incompetent version. It's not mirroring their soul.
51:10Whereas I am a big believer in that you should get close to your soul. You should cleanse the path to it and then you should conversate. You should communicate through your brand whether it's product or service to the souls of others. You should inspire others through communicating with the soul of others. Socialization, solitude, most of your time should really be that. Um you I'm I feel I never feel lonely when I'm in solitude.
51:39I feel more connected with all of you guys than ever. You know, now I do love physical people around. I love in the evening when I'm spending time with my partner and you know, family and I see those like only about for a week or so, once a year, right? I love that. And I connect with high level mates maybe once a month. So other guys who are also focusing on becoming their most highest most on authentic self, their best self in business, and body and mind. They're the only people I interact with. people who are doing the same thing in their own authentic way.
52:14There is no competition in the world. Like some people could say, "Oh, like you you hang out with competition or whatever." No, no one's competition. If you're expressing your own soul, it's all different. We're like we're all authentic beings. The only competition is these clones who perform to all be the same basic generic version of each other. So I want to be around other people who are spiritual, who are close to God, who are becoming their best in body mind business relationships uh, and also optimizing for the good life because I want to make sure any interaction isn't negatively programming my mind to optimize for the wrong thing.
52:52And through self-actualizing, through having this level of consciousness on what you have as your standard for socialization, that can be difficult. You're not lonely because even in solitude, you feel good. But you then have a standard for selection on who you interact with all of the time. And um that is your biggest tool because then when you are interacting with them, the growth that comes from that is unbelievable. And I'm a big believer that you know some people might not like this. It may sound rash but uh socialization should be transactional but spiritually transactional. uh if I have a conversation with someone I they should leave the conversation so much
53:30more inspired and elevated and so should I. Right now, it doesn't have to be knowledge both ways. From one, it could be spiritual elevation. Uh, and to the other person, it could be knowledge elevation. From one person, it could be uh income elevation. For the other person, it could be energy elevation. Right? But they should both leave that conversation being higher energy, higher frequency, and closest to their their home, closest to their end state on alignment. I.e. They're they're following that shadow of that race car doing the best that like it's something that aligns with the end state.
54:04Conversations that don't align with the end state don't have a place in life. And that doesn't mean you don't like people. It doesn't mean you hate people. It doesn't mean you're arrogant. You're just focused. You're just on your own mission. And I think actually I would say I have more love for people and I can say things that may you know to the to unspiritually aware people offend people but I could be perceived as arrogant as you know through my acts of solitude. Um but in reality it's just out of love for everybody and love for myself because if I focus on that that's when I can be the most impactful for
54:42everybody else. You can't be draining and wasting time. So yes, most of your time when it comes to socialization should be solitude. It should be then yes, small amounts of time with your partner, with family, uh when you can fit it in the calendar if you live overseas and then once a month or so should be with highle guys. Um, usually guys, you don't fall for the whole you need tons of brothers, you need tons of like, of course you need brother, you know, you need good men around you. Um, but you need a handful, right? And and for me, some of those have been who I've invested in, paid
55:20money to. They're more of a friend to me than someone who's just a friend because they say they're a friend. Because what is a friend as a man? It's someone who raises your competence. It's someone who brings you to your higher self. I have a lot of clients to me who say, "Tom, you're the only person I can say this to. I'm closer with you than I am with any friend." And that's exactly how it should be. The best individuals, the best friends in your life, the best people to socialize with are the people that will demand the highest version of you and nothing less. Someone isn't a
55:49friend to me if they're not that. And that is why um that's what you should optimize for. the highest level people, you know, as you elevate, as you invest in yourself and you bring yourself up, you will then start to operate and communicate in a frequency with these other individuals doing that. So that's why you can go through these periods of loneliness where it's like as you're self-actualizing, you've got to you're no to this standard, but you're not quite at this one. And then boom, and then you're in this circle. Now, if you're a fast, if you're if you're constantly obsessed with aligning with your soul and that's where you s to take
56:22pleasure, which it will be, you're going to go again. And that some may come with you, some may not, and you may go through another little lonier period uh in terms of how many people are in your circle, but the highest level people uh are doing the same thing. The highest level people don't just have time to just [ __ ] around at last second's notice. You know, your best friend isn't the one that says yes all the time. your best friend is the one that uh loves you no matter what and doesn't even need to say a word for you to know it. You know,
56:49they just demand and want the best for you. Um anyone saying you need a mastermind of, you know, a thousand men in your corner, it's [ __ ] They're just selling you a thousand men community. Um you definitely need proximity, but you don't need thousands of people. You need to be around someone who already possesses the outcome that you want, who is going to demand it from you and and build a real connection with you. You don't need to just go to networking dinners and complete [ __ ] and like you just don't need to do that potency. Be a sniper rifle, not a [ __ ] [ __ ] with
57:26a [ __ ] flamethrower, okay? Be a be a sniper rifle at everything you do in life. If you want my full calendar, guys, that harmonizes all of this, that brings fitness, spirituality, mindset business house setup, uh relationships, all into uh harmony. You can grab that and take it with a pinch of salt. Maybe it's something you can literally mirror and run it right now. Uh maybe it's something you make a few adaptations to and can evolve into or whatever. But I'm sure either way, you're going to take a lot of value from it. Uh guys, I'll see you in the next video. Let's get it.
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